The Incredible Shrinking World

Several times in recent weeks, I have seen people complain when alternate views on a topic are posted on someone's wall or discussion board. Once, I was even the person getting told that "If you don't agree with me, don't post on my wall." I understand that nobody wants their wall to become a flamewar in progress. I also understand that stating one's opinion is different than trying to start a war. The person who was upset with me claimed that somehow I was violating his 1st ammendment rights by disagreeing with him. The idea that "my rights end where yours begin" is a concept we seem to be losing in our current culture. It is both a question of respect, and a willingness to be open to change. (In the interest of full disclosure, I told the person that if he only wanted people who agreed with him to be his friends, I might not be a good choice - so, he "unfriended" me. A wise move on his part.)

When we listen to Eli Pariser on the TED video (linked in the blog title), discussing the concept of online filter bubbles, it seems to be referencing the same mentality. Our world is shrinking, but it isn't just that technology is making it possible for anyone to talk real-time to friends in China for free via Skype. It is also about the fact that many of us are painting ourselves into a corner.

We have so much information available to us, and I think we sit on the cusp of information overload for a large part of our lives. I try to be understanding of this. We each have an awful lot to process every day.

However, if I only read articles slanted to my existing point of view, if I only accept data that validates my opinion, if I only allow those who agree with me to post on my wall, I am limiting my opportunities for growth, change, and even my ability to impact those who disagree with me. By controlling the discussion, I am limiting the potential for conflict, and that may seem like a good thing. Very few people want to spend their "relaxation time" in heated discussions, defending opinons. Think about it, though. If your conversation is only with those that already agree with you, you could be led to a mistaken impression that your point of view is more popular or common than it is. You may be ignoring a ton of evidence that suggests you might want to modify that opinion. There are lots of ways a healthy debate can be a positive influence. Also, I truly believe that respect for differing opinions is a character trait that is essential for a healthy democracy. We can't lose the capacity for civil discussion on controversial issues. If we do, we're done!

When we share our ideas, we need to be respectful of the other person's right to their opinion. That doesn't mean we have to avoid expressing contrary thoughts, or sharing statistics and data to back up our opinion. The fine line is there between inciting an argument and sharing a contrary opinion, and it isn't always clear-cut.

I am asking you to consider how much you are limiting yourself when avoiding confrontation is the be-all, end-all of your life. It shrinks your world, and there is an amazing, huge, abundant universe out here. You don't want to miss any of it!